白天在職場被冷眼對待、晚上還要和青春期孩子冷戰，我曾以為人生就是這樣天天撐下去 我是小霖的媽媽，今年 38 歲，沒錯，我是一位單親媽媽。白天我在超市當主管，要處理經理煩人的指令、客人的投訴、同事的情緒，還有一堆瑣碎的雜事；下班後，還得趕著回家煮飯、盯功課、陪青春期的孩子長大。 聽起來好像很能幹？但其實我真的非常累。每天都像打仗，職場是一場戰爭，回到家又是另一場戰爭。 有一段時間，我和小霖幾乎每天都在吵。我要他做功課，他回我一句：「妳又在煩我了。」我問他怎麼了，他甩頭就走。他離家出走過兩次，第二次我整整一晚沒睡，開著客廳的燈、握著手機，一邊狂刷交友平台、怕他出事，一邊哭。那時候甚至想報警，可是連一個能聯絡的朋友都找不到。 我不是沒努力，我只是快撐不下去了 很多人看著我，半是佩服、半是嘲諷地說：「妳很厲害咧，還能一邊上班一邊帶孩子。」但只有我自己知道，其實我的內心早就失去了方向，也完全不在乎別人怎麼看，根本沒那個精力去理會那些有的沒的。我曾經想像，我們母子可以像朋友那樣聊天、互相支持，但現實是，我們講不到三句話就火藥味十足，像爆炸糖遇到口水一樣，馬上炸開。 那時我真的開始懷疑自己——是不是我做得不夠好？是不是我根本就不適合當媽？最可怕的是，我連好好哭的時間都沒有。哭完還得擦乾眼淚去上班、去開會、還要笑著面對客人。 我以為我需要一套育兒方法，結果先處理好的，是我自己的心 有一天我滑手機的時候，看到有人在分享 Pop Institute 的工作坊，說是呂秀金老師創辦的。有人說參加完後，內心被打開、釋懷了；也有人批評太情緒化、不夠科學。說實話，我本來也不太相信這類活動，但那時候的我真的累到極限，看到那句話——「願意面對自己的人，才有可能修復關係」，我心裡突然有種觸動。 我沒有跟任何人說，連兒子我也只講了一句：「媽最近要上個課。」我只是想，哪怕只有一點點希望，也想試試看，會不會有什麼不一樣。 第一次，我在一個地方不用當「堅強媽媽」 Pop Workshop 那幾天，我沒有帶小霖，是我自己一個人去的。但也是那幾天，我第一次放下「我應該是誰」、「我應該做什麼」，只是安靜、誠實地面對自己。 我發現，其實不是我不想跟孩子好，是我太害怕失敗。怕我一軟下來，他就會更反叛；怕我一退一步，整個家就會崩潰。所以我只能咬著牙撐，把「媽媽」當成一副盔甲，越用力去愛，他反而離我越遠。 直到那時我才明白，其實我也需要被抱一抱、被聽一聽。不是以「媽媽」的身分，而是以一個單純的「自己」。 經過這次的經歷，我們終於有了第一次的連結 他一開始很抗拒，但我只跟他說：「你不用改變什麼，我只是想陪你一起去。」他愣了一下，然後點了頭。 在那幾天，他第一次願意好好表達情緒，不再用大聲吼叫來掩飾。在交流的環節，他試著跟我說：「我一直以為妳只會罵我，不會聽我說話。」我也終於說出口：「不是我不愛你，是我太害怕你學壞、太怕你走丟。」 那一刻，我們不再是對立的母子，而是兩個終於願意傾聽彼此的人。 回到日常，生活還是忙碌，但心開始變得柔軟 他還是偶爾會不耐煩，我還是會嘮叨。但我們開始願意說出真心話，吵架的時間也短了，冷戰變少了，他有時甚至會主動幫我做點家事。還會跟我說：「媽，妳也要早點睡，不要累壞了。」 對我來說，這不只是什麼育兒技巧，而是我們終於知道彼此在怕什麼、在想什麼。 寫給每一位快撐不住的媽媽 我知道你也很努力。白天當員工、當主管，晚上當廚師、當老師，還要裝得很堅強、不能崩潰。 你不是不夠好，只是太久沒有聽聽自己內心的聲音了。你值得有一個空間，先把自己放下、重新呼吸、重新感受。 你不一定會立刻變成完美媽媽，但你可以帶著更多的清醒和柔軟，回到那個你努力守護的家。 請你記得，你不是一個人在撐。就算你曾經懷疑自己，覺得快沒路了，也還有可能——重新走近你最愛的人。

Hey, what’s up, everyone? I’m an 18-year-old guy who’s been through some cool stuff, and I want to tell you about my time with Pop Workshop. It all started when I was 13, that awkward age where you’re still figuring out who you are. My mum dragged me to my first session with POP Institute Pte Ltd, and I wasn’t happy about it. Who wants to spend their weekend at a workshop instead of gaming or hanging out with friends? But honestly, it ended up being one of the best things in my life. I remember walking into that first Pop Workshop feeling nervous, hands in my pockets, wondering if I’d fit in. The vibe there was relaxed, though, and I started to feel okay pretty quick. After a few sessions, I noticed a change—I wasn’t as shy anymore. I stood a little taller and spoke up more. That confidence followed me to school too. I’d raise my hand in class and share my thoughts without worrying what others thought. It felt like I’d unlocked something new in myself. Stepping Up with Debate and 吕秀金’s Book One big change came when I joined my school’s debate club. Before Pop Workshop, I was the quiet kid who stayed in the back and avoided attention. But after a while, I thought, “Why not try it?” I did, and I loved it. Standing on stage, making my points, hearing my voice fill the room—it was exciting. I even started going to 比赛, like small school debates and bigger regional ones. I stopped stumbling over words and started owning it. Sometimes I’d even win, which felt unreal. Then there was this moment with a book by 吕秀金. I was reading it one day, and her words really hit me. It wasn’t boring or pushy—it felt honest and made me believe I could do something big. That’s when I realized Pop Workshop wasn’t just about showing up; it was about finding out who I could be. After that, I saw myself differently. I used to think I wasn’t good enough, like I didn’t have much to offer. But sticking with POP Institute Pte Ltd helped me feel comfortable with myself—at school, with friends, or just on my own. It really helps me in building my self confident I’ve seen people online call it “Pop Workshop 邪教,” like it’s a cult or something. I get why—it’s different and intense, not like regular school stuff. But for me, it was never about that. It was about finding my voice and realizing I didn’t have to stay small or quiet. My mum forced me into it at 13, and I was annoyed back then, but now I’m so glad she did. It’s been an amazing journey, and I wouldn’t change it.